Right Relationships

Paul is concerned that true spirituality should impact all areas of life, and he now speaks about the key relationships of wives and husbands, children and parents, and slaves and masters. There is much wisdom here but also much potential controversy, so it is important to consider their societal arrangement, because Paul’s culture was very different from the individualism of today’s western culture. The people of his day found their identity and meaning in fulfilling their social and family obligations. Paul’s teaching is truly revolutionary in that context, not least in the way he expressed worth and respect for the marginalized—women, children and slaves. That needs to be underscored today.

The foundation undergirding right relationships begins with our relationship to Christ. The words “the Lord” appear six times in the passage (18,20,22,23,24), because Christ’s Lordship dominates all aspects of life. By submitting to his rule, our true humanity is restored. We treat people as made in God’s image, people for whom Jesus gave his life. Paul then stresses mutual responsibility and mutuality. He doesn’t focus on the power of men or of bosses, but points out the responsibilities of each partner—of wives as well as husbands, of children as well as parents, of slaves as well as masters. Responsibilities outweigh rights, and the passage demonstrates how true Christianity encourages respect and worth.

Finally, Paul calls for a wholehearted commitment (22–24). All of our work, however insignificant it might appear, counts as service for the Lord Jesus Christ. We are to engage in all of life energetically, not reluctantly (23). Such concepts are as radical today as they were in the first century, as the church showcases wholesome relationships founded on respect and mutuality.

Pray for those marriages and families you know which are under pressure and for workplaces where injustice is displayed. Pray for the values of this passage to prosper.