GOD’S WAY – RECONCILIATION
Loving Lord, you are generous beyond measure. If I were to spend all my day praising you, it would not be enough.
Read MATTHEW 18:15-20
Dealing With Sin in the Church
15 “If your brother or sister[a] sins,[b] go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’[c] 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
19 “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
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When differences occur between you and a fellow believer, what do you do?
Reconciliation is very important, Jesus says, as he recognizes that differences will occur between believers. All-important is how these differences are dealt with, so he outlines some key principles, while allowing that, sadly, restoration of fellowship may not always be possible. Holding discipline and grace in tension is not easy, but Jesus calls his church to practice tough love.
The notion of going directly to a believer who has offended you was similar to Jewish teaching at that time. The key aim is that the offender should respond properly. Yet if this initial meeting is not successful, then it is necessary to gather evidence carefully in case later evidence is needed of what happened. Synagogues often evaluated local disputes and Christians transferred this function to the local church.1 The requirement of two witnesses fulfills the command of Deuteronomy2 and remained the procedure among first-century believers.3 However, if the offender still will not acknowledge they are in the wrong, then the Christian community should be made aware of the offense and then disassociate itself from that person.
The phrase ‘a pagan or a tax collector’ (v 17), suggests a hope that, despite the barrier at that time, there remains a possibility of forgiveness and a new start, as there was with Jesus’ relationship with such people. Matthew probably remembered that, because he had been a tax collector. So care and a loving attitude should go hand in hand with such discipline. Paul’s aim was also restoration.4 This is all very challenging, but Jesus promises his blessing on action properly taken to try to reconcile believers to one another (v 20 – a verse that sadly is often taken out of context).
Applying these verses appropriately needs a local church that is marked by trust and integrity, as well as love for one another. Is your church like this?
Merciful One, I pray for church leaders who deal with difficult situations. Grant wisdom to them as they seek to follow your teaching, and work for reconciliation.
1 1 Cor 5:4,5; 6:1–5 2 Deut 19:15 3 2 Cor 13:1,2; 1 Tim 5:19,20 4 1 Cor 5:5
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