CHOOSE FRIENDS WISELY
Opening Prayer
Lord, teach me how to choose friends wisely.
Read PROVERBS 22:17–23:9
Thirty Sayings of the Wise
Saying 1
17 Pay attention and turn your ear to the sayings of the wise;
apply your heart to what I teach,
18 for it is pleasing when you keep them in your heart
and have all of them ready on your lips.
19 So that your trust may be in the Lord,
I teach you today, even you.
20 Have I not written thirty sayings for you,
sayings of counsel and knowledge,
21 teaching you to be honest and to speak the truth,
so that you bring back truthful reports
to those you serve?
Saying 2
22 Do not exploit the poor because they are poor
and do not crush the needy in court,
23 for the Lord will take up their case
and will exact life for life.
Saying 3
24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person,
do not associate with one easily angered,
25 or you may learn their ways
and get yourself ensnared.
Saying 4
26 Do not be one who shakes hands in pledge
or puts up security for debts;
27 if you lack the means to pay,
your very bed will be snatched from under you.
Saying 5
28 Do not move an ancient boundary stone
set up by your ancestors.
Saying 6
29 Do you see someone skilled in their work?
They will serve before kings;
they will not serve before officials of low rank.
Saying 7
23 When you sit to dine with a ruler,
note well what[a] is before you,
2 and put a knife to your throat
if you are given to gluttony.
3 Do not crave his delicacies,
for that food is deceptive.
Saying 8
4 Do not wear yourself out to get rich;
do not trust your own cleverness.
5 Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone,
for they will surely sprout wings
and fly off to the sky like an eagle.
Saying 9
6 Do not eat the food of a begrudging host,
do not crave his delicacies;
7 for he is the kind of person
who is always thinking about the cost.[b]
“Eat and drink,” he says to you,
but his heart is not with you.
8 You will vomit up the little you have eaten
and will have wasted your compliments.
Saying 10
9 Do not speak to fools,
for they will scorn your prudent words.
Footnotes
a Proverbs 23:1 Or who
b Proverbs 23:7 Or for as he thinks within himself, / so he is; or for as he puts on a feast, / so he is
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Meditate
“Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.” (Psalms 119:18)
Think Further
From the very beginning, Proverbs warns against associating with various bad characters (Proverbs 1:10–19). Here, 22:24–27 juxtaposes two warnings about avoiding certain persons and practices. The first warning concerns making friends with an angry person (24,25 – cf., Proverbs 14:17; 15:18). Why is that so? It is because such a person’s influence becomes a snare. We would eventually assume such behavior ourselves and lose control of our temper more easily (25). Proverbs 19:19 spells out the dangers of hot-tempered people: “A violent-tempered person will pay the penalty; if you effect a rescue, you will only have to do it again” (NRSV).
The second warning points out that friendships may come at a high price. One can lose everything in a foolish pledge, with one’s very bed being snatched away (26, 27). Stated in other terms, if one doesn’t have the means to pay, one shouldn’t take a pledge for another’s debts. These two warnings highlight the loss caused by making bad associations. Paul Koptak puts it well: “In both, the caution is well taken that choosing associates means choosing their behaviors and attitudes, but also the consequences that result from them.” (Paul E. Koptak, Proverbs, Zondervan, 2003, p. 538) That’s exactly what Proverbs 13:20 teaches us: “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
Let’s stop for a moment and think. Which friend(s) do we need to keep at a distance and why? Which friend(s) do we need to get close to and why? May we surround ourselves with people who make us a better person! Likewise, may our friends find us a blessing to them!
Apply
“Be careful of the environment you choose, for it will shape you; be careful of the friends you choose, for you will become like them.” (A traditional saying, source unknown)
Closing prayer
Lord, teach me how to more effectively curb my anger issues so that they don’t spill over into my relationships with others.
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