A Relationship Restored
Opening Prayer
Loving and Faithful Lord, I present myself to You. I long to be useful to You each day.
Read SONG OF SONGS 6:4—7:13
He
4 You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling,
as lovely as Jerusalem,
as majestic as troops with banners.
5 Turn your eyes from me;
they overwhelm me.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
descending from Gilead.
6 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep
coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin,
not one of them is missing.
7 Your temples behind your veil
are like the halves of a pomegranate.
8 Sixty queens there may be,
and eighty concubines,
and virgins beyond number;
9 but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,
the only daughter of her mother,
the favorite of the one who bore her.
The young women saw her and called her blessed;
the queens and concubines praised her.
Friends
10 Who is this that appears like the dawn,
fair as the moon, bright as the sun,
majestic as the stars in procession?
He
11 I went down to the grove of nut trees
to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
or the pomegranates were in bloom.
12 Before I realized it,
my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people.
Friends
13 Come back, come back, O Shulammite;
come back, come back, that we may gaze on you!
He
Why would you gaze on the Shulammite
as on the dance of Mahanaim?
7 How beautiful your sandaled feet,
O prince’s daughter!
Your graceful legs are like jewels,
the work of an artist’s hands.
2 Your navel is a rounded goblet
that never lacks blended wine.
Your waist is a mound of wheat
encircled by lilies.
3 Your breasts are like two fawns,
like twin fawns of a gazelle.
4 Your neck is like an ivory tower.
Your eyes are the pools of Heshbon
by the gate of Bath Rabbim.
Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon
looking toward Damascus.
5 Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel.
Your hair is like royal tapestry;
the king is held captive by its tresses.
6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
my love, with your delights!
7 Your stature is like that of the palm,
and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
8 I said, “I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit.”
May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine,
the fragrance of your breath like apples,
9 and your mouth like the best wine.
She
May the wine go straight to my beloved,
flowing gently over lips and teeth.
10 I belong to my beloved,
and his desire is for me.
11 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
let us spend the night in the villages.
12 Let us go early to the vineyards
to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
and if the pomegranates are in bloom—
there I will give you my love.
13 The mandrakes send out their fragrance,
and at our door is every delicacy,
both new and old,
that I have stored up for you, my beloved.
New International Version (NIV)
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Reflect
Gender relationships can be a sensitive subject. The Song has valuable things to say on the subject.
Love provokes extravagant language. The man expresses his admiration for the woman in two wasfs. The first (6:4–7) is a short reprise of 4:1–5. The second describes her, moving from feet to 21head (7:1–5), probably because she is dancing. In between, the man extols
her uniqueness. She would stand out in any royal harem! Commentators
puzzle over 6:11,12. Comparison of different English translations gives
evidence of the obscurity of the Hebrew of 6:12. The woman is called
“the Shulamite” in 6:13. The word occurs only here in the Old Testament
and its meaning is debated. It may come from a root meaning “peace,
wholeness, completion.” Perhaps the man is saying that this is the woman
who will make his life complete. With a change of imagery, he expresses
his desire for sexual union with her (7:6–9a). She invites him to enjoy this
in a quiet rural setting (7:9b–13).
The TNIV translation of 7:10a obscures its repetition of “I am my beloved’s” from 6:3. With 2:16, it is the third statement of the mutuality and equality of their love relationship. The Hebrew word for “desire” in 7:10b occurs in only two other places (Gen. 3:16; 4:7). In Genesis 3:16 it expresses God’s judgment on the woman. Her desire for her husband will result in a loss of mutuality and a relationship of domination. Sin damages gender relationships. What was intended as a relationship of mutuality and equality is distorted into one of control and domination (Gen. 1:27; 2:18,23,24). By describing a love relationship in a garden setting and saying “his desire is for me” the poet of the Song is expressing a mutual, self-giving love, as the Creator originally intended. Paul widens this to life in the church, where all receive the self-giving love of God so that gender inequalities should disappear (Rom. 5:5; Gal. 3:28).
Apply
God made us male and female. Why are gender relationships a cause of so much debate in society and the church? What aspect of the debate concerns you most? What is the Song’s contribution on the subject?
Closing prayer
Gracious Father, help me to make Your Kingdom values my priority and the priority of my church. The priorities of popular culture are always seeking to have preeminence.
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